The proposal is the first huge step of any future husband and one of the most stressful they will encounter. Choosing the mens wedding bands and one for the woman is important, but there are a variety of things that will need to be figured out beforehand. How do you pop the question? When is the appropriate time? Is she ready to get married? These are all valid concerns; however, if you have come to the realization that she is the one and you are ready to make that leap, then you need the following dos and don’ts to ensure that your proposal goes off without a hitch.
Do: Create a surprise proposal…but not too much of a surprise.
There are studies that have proven that one of the factors that make a proposal great for a woman is that it is not expected. However, you should also not jump the gun and ask a woman to marry you on your third date. You need to ensure that you have been in a committed relationship for a while, have declared your love for each other and have discussed marriage and the future.
Don’t: Put it off too for too long.
While no one is trying to push you to the alter, the actual fear of the proposal oftentimes keeps men from getting to the alter. While chances are that if she loves you she will accept a tardy proposal, but the timing is very important. She will give you signs when she is ready to hear the question; be sure you are watching for them.
Do: Ensure the proposal is the one of her dreams – not your dreams.
This is you one shining moment in time to show her exactly how much you love her and how much you want to spend the rest of your life with her and that you want to ensure that she is happy and continues to be happy. While you have that in mind, you need to create a proposal that will truly make her heart jump; not one that will make your buddies give you a high-five. Chances are that she has been dropping hints; make sure you are paying attention.
Don’t: Underestimate the overall power of a simple gesture.
Even if your lady is completely modern, chances are that she will still appreciate some good old-fashioned chivalry. Does she love roses or champagne? If so, make sure you bring some along for the proposal. There are also many women that still like the idea that you would ask her parents for their blessing prior to proposing. This can provide a bonding opportunity for you and your future father-in-law, as well.
The bottom line to consider when it comes to proposing is that you should just do it. You do not have to stage a huge and elaborate event. If you are ready and she has given signs that she is ready, then it is high time to pop the question.